Being in a Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationship is sometimes difficult to deal with. My husband is a soldier and he is working in another place far from me. Being a wife of a soldier is not easy. There are a lot of things on my mind. I couldn't stop myself thinking about bad things especially that I could always hear the phrase, "Every place replaced!" I'm afraid that maybe my husband has another affair in other place. I don't know what to do if it will happen to me.  Of course, not all men do the same thing. However, I could observe that from my husband's colleagues but not all of them. Aside from that, working as a soldier is very risky. My husband's first priority is his work. He is very willing to risk his life just to accomplish his responsibilities. Sometimes, I get mad with him because he doesn't have enough time for me. 

"With My Husband, My Son and Myself"

Now, he is working in another place far from my family. At first, it was very difficult for me to adjust especially that I am so dependent with my husband but I have no choice. I need to accept the fact that this is my life. My husband will not always stay beside me. I need to stand by myself and take care of my child. Fortunately, my mother and my siblings are living together with me. My mother helps me in taking care of my child. I could concentrate with my work. Whenever I go outside, I am so confident that my son is in a good condition. Nevertheless, it is very hard to raise a child without a husband. He is still eight months old now. I am a little bit worried on how to discipline him. I need my husband to help me in disciplining my son. 

"My Husband with Korean Soldiers"

We are far from each other. We could meet each other once in two or three months. It is so hard but I need to accustom myself in this kind of situation. We are new couple. We got married last June 2012. All I can do is to pray for his safety. Every now and then, they will face some difficult tasks that would put their lives at risk. Lord, please protect and guide my beloved husband all the time! 

Thus, in order to have a successful relationship especially long distance relationship like me and my husband. Here are my tips: 

1. Always pray to God. Praying to God is very important for us to enlighten our mind. God will always listen to our prayers. Sometimes, we question God's existence especially if we have a lot of problems. However, when we don't have big problems, we sometimes forget him. God is always there ready to guide us in a right way. 

2. Trust and respect each other. In a relationship, trust and respect are essential. If we love a person, we need to trust and respect him/her in everything he/she does. Nevertheless, we sometimes can't avoid thinking not so good things about our partner. We think that maybe he/she is with somebody else right now. Maybe, it's natural because we are afraid of getting hurt. As what I've read on the internet, "A relationship without trust is like having a phone with no service. And what do you do with a phone with no service? You play games. Love becomes the weakest when there is more doubt than trust but love becomes the strongest when you learn to trust even with all the doubts." 

3. Always keep in touch with each other. Having constant communication with our partner will make our relationship stronger.. Sending messages such as I love you, I miss you, take care, etc., will show our concern and love to our partner. Communication is the life line of any relationship. Without it, the relationship will starve itself to death.